Blog 4: be a little nicer to them

stop waiting to respect yourself. 

stop waiting for the degree 

the job title, the company name

the award

the commendation 

the boyfriend or girlfriend, husband or wife

the kids

the approval or validation from your family 

the house

the money 

the holidays

the items 

stop waiting

to think you're worth something.

Because before any of those things happened you were still the same person without them. When you began this whole life, you had all of that in you, but if you wait til you have it all, when will you feel worthy of it? Right before you die? Start now. Respect yourself now, love yourself now, thank yourself now for all that it plans to do and will do granted the opportunity, desire and willingness to prepare.

We could waste our whole damn lives, refusing to appreciate our potential, just to show those around us that we are a space worth watching. To parade our self punishment. We think to appreciate potential means to be a fool, to fall prey to our empty promises, humiliated to others that they might have caught us believing in ourselves. Promises change, dreams change, plans change, but it does not make the potential within the dreamer any less magical. All we are doing is suffering a life time, in order to find at the end, that we'd had all that we were going to be, within us all the while. We live as if it's okay to punish and torture a child commoner, but if one day we found them to have been a member of the royal bloodline, we'd lament our mistake for having not known what they were worth. But does that make your behaviour forgivable? If a villain suffers their childhood in the same way, and grows into great power, does that make their early suffering justified? We need not see what we can become, before we are inspired by what it is we have within us.

Enjoy those accomplishments NOW for all that they some day will be and all that is meant for you before you see it. Believe in the knowing that the right things will happen with your energy invested.

Destroy this mistrust that you have with yourself, where you demand she prove everything before you believe it.

What kind of friend are you? The outside is enough of an enemy.

Build a god damn fortress around your plans. And whatever the fuck you do inside there is up to you, perfect, exciting, brilliant, in the plans, and meant to be, on whatever divine timing and opportunity that is given to you.

No friend of yours would be worth your time, if when you shared great dreams with them, they demanded you prove it first.

Have some respect for the intention to just LIVE. Live fully, live hard, live as you please, to change directions, to set directions, to accomplish and to quietly win your own battles.

All of it is wonderful, but the wonder is already within you, right now, so stop throwing away all these years of wonder, grinding away to prove it to someone who already knows it’s there. 

Keep proving it, keep doing your thing, being on your way,

but just, for the love of him or her - be a little fuckin nicer so they can breathe.

be a little fuckin nicer to them